36 Proud
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Melissa: [00:00:00] Hey, I'm Melissa Grant, licensed nutritionist and creator of drop the diet weight loss. I am on a mission to help women drop the fad diets and lose weight in a way they love for the last damn time. I know you're ready to end the yo-yo dieting and do this weight loss thing for good. So let's go. Hey, Hey, and welcome back.
Thanks for being here today. I think that today's topic on how to be proud of yourself is such an important topic that we tend to overlook. So I've talked about the importance of celebrating the small wins, but today I want to take that a step further and talk about the importance of finding pride in yourself to not only celebrate the wins.
The big ones and the small ones, but to find pride in them and to be proud of yourself, why is this [00:01:00] important? Well, when you can hoot and holler for yourself, when you acknowledge yourself, it motivates you to do more and it motivates you to show up in a way that energizes you and fulfills you versus showing up in a way that depletes you.
I believe that it also. You to begin to trust in the bigger picture that with weight loss, it's not about that one meal or that one workout it's about consistently showing up over time. It's all the little actions you take. The behaviors you're changing that are. In the long run and it's easy to get wrapped up and all the things you didn't do or could have done better or should have done, like focusing on things like the number on the scale or that one meal that didn't go as planned or that workout that you missed.
But can you see how focusing on these things? Isn't very [00:02:00] motivating. It doesn't really make you want to jump up and take further action. Right. But I know that a lot of us have a hard time being proud of ourselves in our heads, let alone sharing it with others. Finding pride in yourself is a hard thing to do our brains don't automatically go there.
And for a lot of us, we think that when we do or when we share it, that we're being up noxious or boastful. I find it so interesting that we have those negative thoughts around sharing our proud moments, but we have no problem with talking down about ourselves and sharing that more freely. That's interesting to think about, right?
It's like, we'll be less judged when we're beating ourselves up versus sharing. Oh, this is something that I work on with my ladies right out of the gate. When I'm having a conversation with one of my members, I always started off by having them list out their wins and for the newer members who [00:03:00] just start with.
With me, this is tough. They almost always want to start out by listing off the things that didn't go so well, they're rarely talking about how proud they are of their accomplishments or celebrating those accomplishments. They tend to even diminish them by saying things like, well, this probably won't last or, well, I had some help or we'll see if I can do this.
Next week or, well, I guess that could be a win. Sometimes I have to really pull it out of them, but as they continue to practice this, it gets easier for them to spot them and celebrate them. They start looking at how these moments are going to add up and be huge for the bigger picture, starting out with the wins.
First, sets them up to look at the challenges in a much better light, like, okay, well I crushed these things so I can definitely get after some of these challenges for the week. I think it's just such an important part of this. [00:04:00] When you feel proud of yourself, you'll want to take more action and in turn, that will lead to more pride.
So let's talk about how to get started with this. A good way to get started is just to start to get in the habit of looking for reasons to be proud of yourself. And it doesn't have to be these big, huge accomplished. It could be. You're proud that you just got out of bed in the morning or took a shower or proud that you moved your body for 10 minutes today, or you ate a vegetable.
You get it. The point is you want to accumulate all of these moments of pride. And then the next step is to ask yourself
what is it that would make you feel proud and not someone else, but what would make you feel proud? Start thinking in that way now, and then start making plans to do the things, what are the actions needed to get? And I think it's important to remember that pride doesn't have to come from the end result.[00:05:00]
It can come from the actions. It can come from the effort that you put into it. So let's say you set a weight loss goal and you didn't hit it. Does that mean you can't be proud? Absolutely not. What were the things you did, your actions? How were you showing up? I know there are things in there that you can be proud of yourself for.
And of course this doesn't just relate to weight loss. I think it's important to look for moments of pride in all areas of your life, like showing up for your relationships you built and the connections for yourself, for your family, for your career. For me, I'm proud of this podcast. It could be so easy for me to say, well, this episode could have been better or I need more listeners.
And subscribers, but that's not motivating at all. That's not going to want to make me keep going. Instead, I find the pride in the actions I take, like learning about all the podcast equipment, the software, and not trying to overthink every word that [00:06:00] comes out of my mouth and showing up for you guys each week.
My big picture here is helping people. Even if it's one person it's not the number of downloads or the subscriber.
So I can't wait for you to start recognizing all the amazing things that you're doing. So your action step for the week is to write out your proud moments and it doesn't have to relate to just wait. And then take that a step further and share it with someone. And I'd love to hear about them. So send me a message or tag me so I can celebrate you too.
And you'll listen to this episode. That's a huge win right there. All right. I'm so grateful for you being here with me today. I'll talk to you soon. .
